I can’t even begin to count the number of nights I’ve spent alone after I’ve put the kids to bed. At first it wasn’t so bad but after a while it got old. Sitting alone at night with no one to talk to or hang out with can become pretty lonely. Part Three of How to Survive as a Railroad Wife is to get a hobby or at the very least get Netflix. Binge watching TV can really pass the time and it may be the only time you get control of the remote…take advantage of that while you can. I know I sure do!
You just need something to help you pass the time and keep your mind off your railroader. If I have too much time on my hands, I think about all the bad stuff that could possibly happen to him OR I’m thinking about how I’m alone with 3 kids all night by myself. Both of these lines of thoughts do not lead to a good night sleep. They lead to a late night of worrying and a crappy next day. Trust me! Been there done that too many nights. There is not enough coffee in the world to help the next day.
Thankfully I had a few hobbies before my husband started with the railroad. I love to crochet, sew, quilt, cross stitch and do embroidery. I’m also part of a book club but I’m not very good at keeping up with the monthly book as I once was. I also started this blog to try and pass the time, support other railroad families and try to educate those who don’t know about the railroad life. With all that said, my go to after a long day of being a “single” parent is binge watching Netflix or watching shows I’ve recorded on our PVR. Watching mindless TV with a glass of wine is always a great way to end a long and stressful day.
The railroad life for both railroaders and their wives can be a very lonely life…especially with kids. I can’t just go for a drink with the girls whenever I want. I have to either make sure my railroader is going to be home– we all know how that works– or I need to line up a babysitter…who basically has to be on call just in case my railroader makes it home at the last minute. Thankfully we have a great babysitter who is typically available last minute but I don’t like to abuse that either. More often than not I try to plan a night at my house with the girls and by chance if my railroader is home we go to a local pub. I have some awesome friends who are very flexible.
If you missed the previous posts in the series check them out…
How to Survive as a Railroad Wife – Part One, find it here.
How to Survive as a Railroad Wife – Part Two, find it here.