Okay so here is the last part of this series and I think maybe the most important way I survive as a railroad wife but more importantly how my marriage survives the railroad. Part Four of How to Survive as a Railroad Wife is to plan date nights with your railroader. I know this is not always an easy task because of our railroad’s lack of schedule but it’s important to spend one on one time with each other.
Dates nights are something my railroader and I just started doing this year. Our three kids are finally all in an activity together so we have an hour and a half to ourselves every Tuesday night. This is obviously a hit or miss situation because my railroader isn’t always home on a Tuesday night. When he’s not I actually have time to myself but when he is home we’re off to our local pub for wings and beer. It just so happens that at this local pub it’s half price wings night. Bonus!
Since we started doing dates nights I feel we are more connected than we were before. It’s a nice time to just hang out and catch up on life and talk about the future without the distraction of our kids or them interrupting us. We really try not to just talk about our kids too. I know a few other railroad couples who go on couple trips every so often but that’s not really for us. We love being around our kids and wouldn’t want to go on vacation without them so a date night works well for us. Do what works for you! If it’s a scheduled date night…do it! If it’s a weekend away…do it! If it’s a week long all inclusive…do it!
I don’t have any hard and fast statistics on the divorce rate for railroaders but I know it’s high. A lot of railroad marriages don’t last for many reasons. Marriage takes work at the best of times but for railroad couples it takes more work to make them last. Do what it takes to make your marriage last. It’s important and it’s worth it.
If you missed Part One, check it out here.
If you missed Part Two, check it out here.
If you missed Part Three, check it out here.